Brushing up on My M.O.M Degree

All our kids are a blessing are they not?  Every one is different for sure. I thank God for this because He teaches me so much through my children. I don’t really get the apart about sanctification through childbearing, but I am pretty sure it doesn’t stop at childbearing. My children are living reminders of my need for sanctification every single day….especially through these early adolescent years.

I brought my 13 year old’s laundry up and suggested she fold it while we were watching a movie. I also mentioned I would be needing my laptop she was using.  I got an eye roll and no movement. So I walked down the hall mumbling, “I know you won’t do it, so I’ll just put your laundry in your room.”

She rushed down the hall into her room and closed the door.  When I said to come out and fold her laundry in the living room as she had been in her room alone enough today doing school work and pleasure reading, she exited her room with her laundry basket and an attitude. I questioned her on the attitude and she responded.  With tears in her eyes.  ”Because you always make those comments. You, and Dad, and my sister.” “What comments?” I asked.  ”I heard you say, ‘You won’t do it anyway.’”

Ugh. I made my little girl cry.  With my words. Whether I meant to hurt her or not; I made her cry. I responded to her in a way that I would have reprimanded one of her siblings for talking to her. I responded to her in a way that would have hurt my feelings had it come from my husband to me.

And like that toothpaste squeezed from the tube, you can’t get the words back in. I humbled myself immediately to her and told her how sorry I was. I was wrong. I should have handled the situation completely differently to get the same result. She is sitting here folding her laundry, watching a movie about Helen Keller.  I could have gotten the same results with a kind, encouraging word.

Remember, parenting is a learning journey.  Every single day. Don’t think you “got it” because one method worked with one child. Every child is different and has a different love language and a different way in which they feel secure in your love.  What makes every child the same is the need to feel loved and wanted. I am working on this diligently. To make each child feel they are special because they are who God made them and just the way God made them.  Not some little copy of what I was or what I want them to be.

I don’t have a PhD to support my theory.  All I have is  M.O.M.

I’ll shut up now so you can go hug your kids.


Be gone, Satan!

I read Matthew 4 this morning.  I have read it before and will read it again.  But today two things stuck out to me.  One is how Satan offered to give Jesus all the kingdoms of the world if He would just fall down and worship Satan.  HA!  What a joke!  As if he owned anything to give to Jesus!  He actually was offering to Jesus what His Father already owned!

Then there is Jesus dismissing Satan in verse 10: “Then Jesus said to him, Be gone, Satan!…”  I love that.  Satan is all blah, blah, blah and Jesus is finally like, I’ve had enough.  Go away.  And you know what?  He does.

A little further down in the chapter we see Jesus calling Peter and Andrew and James and John.  Now, this wasn’t the first time these men had seen Jesus. They had been following His ministry.  But what a lesson for us all.  When Jesus called…they followed. Immediately. 

So please remember today that if you are a Jesus follower you have the power of the Holy Spirit in you.  The same Spirit that gave Jesus the power to resist Satan gives us the same power to resist Satan. And take time today to listen for the voice and call of God.  And if you hear Him, don’t delay.  Follow His call. Immediately. You will be glad you did!

Please, let’s get real

Can we please get real?  Can we tell people the truth when we invite them to be Jesus followers? How many times have we heard the great “health and wealth” line?  How many times have we told people that coming to Jesus will bring them a peace and joy and life like they have never experienced before? This may be true, just not like they are expecting…

Do we make it sound like their problems will disappear at the foot of the cross? We have to STOP!  What disappears at the foot of the cross is our SIN.  Jesus takes the burden of our sin upon Himself.  He has already done that.  But the sin that is in the world does not go away.

Matthew 5:45 says it rains on the just and on the unjust.

Romans 5:3 “Not only so but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;

What about Job?  Remember him?

Forty-two time sufferings is used in the New Testament.  ”Happy”? Twenty times total in the whole Bible.

We need to make sure people know what they are saying “Yes” to!  Jesus Christ IS the answer.  He says in John 14 6 “I am the way, the truth, the life and NO ONE comes to the Father except through Me.”  And that is the FACT.

But I could fill this post with Jesus followers who right now who are going through the trial of their lives.  They are walking a path that is anything but happy.  They are going to their Father with heavy hearts, tears and weariness. But they are clinging to Him because they know amidst the storm, HE is their lifeline. Because if it was about how they feel instead of what they know, they would have ditched this Jesus thing.

So it isn’t about avoiding the pain.  Why?  Because that’s impossible. It’s about having a Father who understands through the pain. Because wherever you are, He has been there already.

“But we do see Jesus, who was made lower than the angels for a little while, now crowned with glory and honor because he suffered death, so that by the grace of God he might taste death for everyone.”
Hebrews 2:9

“In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials.”
I Peter 1:6

So get out there and tell people about the saving power of Jesus Christ. But make sure you don’t “trick” them into something Jesus never promised. Give them the truth. This may be the hardest path you’ve ever walked. But in the end, it is oh so worth it.

Follow the Leader

What do we tell our kids oh so often?  Don’t follow the crowd.  Stand out.  Be different.  Not so different advice to ourselves as adults. But when we are talking about Jesus, that game changes. He is the one we ARE to imitate.  He is the author and perfecter of our faith.  When it comes time to answer the question, who do I want to act like? the answer isn’t your best friend, the leader of your ladies Bible study, the head deacon, your pastor, or your favorite blogger.  The answer is Jesus.

It is the time when we are called to follow the Leader.

Matthew 4:19 “Come, follow Me, Jesus said…

Matthew 8:22 “Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead.”

Matthew 9:9 “Follow me…”

Matthew 10:38 Whoever does not take up their cross and follow Me is not worthy of Me.

Matthew 16:24 “Whoever wants to be My disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow Me.”

Matthew 19:21 “…Then come, follow Me.”

This is just the Gospel of Matthew.

As you hit the floor this morning:

“…choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve…Joshua 24:15

Isn’t Adam’s Race Obvious?

The hardest thing during all this media enraged racial tension junk as a Christian law enforcement family has been to keep our children safe from racial tainting. As they see one group hating on another group they just don’t get it.

Hand of God reaching out to Adam who receives it

You see, we staunchly believe that God created Adam from the dust of the ground.  ”So God created man in His image; in the image of created He him, male and female created He them” (Genesis 1:27).  He created one Adam, not one Adam of every race.  Isn’t Adam’s race already obvious?  He was of the


Yep, that’s it. We believe in one race created by the sovereign God of the universe.  From the dust of the ground.  White?  Black?  Asian?  Hispanic?  HUMAN.

So our focus is to remind our children that these issues are about crime not color.

I don’t know one police officer who wakes up in the morning looking forward to killing someone that day whether in self defense or in the defense of someone else.  It is in their very being to protect & serve.  But I know lots of police officers, probably every single one, who wake up and look forward to coming home at the end of that shift.  They hope that they won’t have to kill and that they won’t be killed.

And to every family who knows what this feels like, who has lost a loved one because of the badge on their chest, I salute you.  I pray for you and thank you for making the ultimate sacrifice.

My favorite phrase I have seen going around in the past week is this, “It isn’t a SKIN problem, it’s a SIN problem.”    Please do not forget who we are fighting:

“This is no afternoon athletic contest that we’ll walk away from and forget about in a couple of hours. This is for keeps, a life-or-death fight to the finish against the Devil and all his angels.” Ephesians 6:12, The Message

All the kevlar in the world won’t save us from this fight, but the armor of God will:

“Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet. Truth, righteousness, peace, faith, and salvation are more than words. Learn how to apply them. You’ll need them throughout your life. God’s Word is an indispensable weapon. In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out.” Ephesians 6:13-18 The Message


It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year!

December truly is the most wonderful time of the year around our house. I love Christmas, celebrating the birth of my Savior; I love Easter, celebrating the resurrection of my Savior!  And I love the first week in December.  It is when my husband and I celebrate our anniversary.  We’ve been celebrating for 26 years and it never gets dry, stale, or old.  For the past five years we have gone away for two-three days.  And I tell you, I look forward to that for the two months before like my kids look forward to Christmas.

And to us it is a holiday, a holy day.  Because the day we took our wedding vows we did just that, we vowed, we made a covenant before God and our witnesses that “til death do us part.”  And every day we wake up aware of that covenant and take it very seriously.  We wake up every day and choose to love one another.And I couldn’t feel more blessed to walk through life, the good times and the bad, with the one God hand picked just for me.

And then after we return home we have one more day of school before our extended Christmas break.  And I get really excited about that too! For us that means a daily routine from December 8th until Christmas: An advent Scripture reading, Christmas fiction read aloud, a Christmas craft/project or act of kindness, a Christmas recipe, and a Christmas movie. We take our celebration seriously! Stepping back from the normal daily routine, enjoying one another’s company, and relishing in the season of our Savior’s birth has completely changed the Christmas season for us over the past two years.

I hope you have much to celebrate this Christmas season!

Right Here. Right Now.


Imagine sitting in your home right now.  The kids are watching cartoons after school.  Your teenager is doing homework.  The baby is playing near your feet.  Your body tells you to get up and make supper.  It’s that time.  Keep things normal.  Don’t panic. Don’t worry about the threats you have already received.

But you know that in a matter of a few hours your entire life could change.  You may be grabbing those emergency bags you packed and sliding into your garage so no one sees you get in your car. Or you have a friend on speed dial ready to come pick you and the children up and take you to an undisclosed location.

You aren’t in some Communist country waiting to get through the border.

This is your country.  The community that you love.  And now everything you know is threatened.

That is what every police wife in Ferguson, MO is facing right now. And not only does she fear for herself and her children; she has to worry about her husband more than she ever has.  Because he is out there at the front line of the threat, doing what he always does.  Protecting.

I can’t imagine. I hope I never have to.  But this grand jury decision will affect every law enforcement officer across the nation in some way.  They will all become a greater target as people decide to take the law in their own hands and serve their own justice.

So before you take that first bite of meatloaf tonight, before you say good night to your little ones, before you sit back with that last cup of coffee, bowl of popcorn, and the remote.

Please…..pray for Ferguson.


Word of God Speak

The words to this song are not unfamiliar to anyone who listens to contemporary Christian music. Thank you Casting Crowns!  There are many times I sing a song, and it’s simply that…singing.Even if I think it’s a great song and one I love to sing along with.  It’s still, just a song.  And then there are times when the music seeps so much deeper than that.  When it pierces your soul and you realize it is not just a song, it’s a sermon. It washes over you and you want to cry it out to the Lord as a prayer of praise and a prayer of petition. That’s where I am with this song right now.
Jesus never promised us sunshine and roses.  If you think He did, you missed the memo and signed on with the wrong King. Some hours are slow, some days are long, some weeks are hard, some years feel desperate. And Satan wants nothing more than for us to feel defeated. Because in some twisted way, he takes pleasure in the anxiety of the saints.  I guess since he knows the end of the story as well as we do, he’s getting all he can out of this life. And he wants the Church of Jesus to suffer.
There is sin all around us.  We live in Satan’s realm right now. But we have something the world doesn’t have, the power of the Holy Spirit!  It’s bigger than you could ever dream, stronger than you could ever imagine, and as a believer in Jesus Christ, He lives in you!  So, nothing that brings us down or makes us feel defeated can have any power greater than that Spirit! And while we may be disappointed for a little while here on earth, maybe in people, maybe in circumstances, we can wake up tomorrow, get in the Word, seek forgiveness if we need to, praise His name…
Because life is short and we all as followers of Jesus have the same mission-to grow in holiness in our own personal lives and to share the truth of the gospel, the only eternal saving power there is, with as many people as possible.  So maybe you need to be at a loss for words today. It’s okay. Shhhh…..Word of God…..speak.
I’m finding myself at a loss for words
And the funny thing is it’s okay
The last thing I need is to be heard
But to hear what You would say

Word of God speak
Would You pour down like rain
Washing my eyes to see
Your majesty
To be still and know
That You’re in this place
Please let me stay and rest
In Your holiness
Word of God speak

I’m finding myself in the midst of You
Beyond the music, beyond the noise
All that I need is to be with You
And in the quiet hear Your voice

No Way Satan!

When you reach the point you’re ready to give in, to give up, to call it quits, to move on and no, I’m not talking about marriage, although it could apply.  It doesn’t matter what the situation is really, the answer is the same:

Buck up sister and keep going!

This isn’t the time for sympathy or pity.  The situation we are in requires action, reaction, or even non-action.  How we handle the situation, what we do, and how we react is up to us.  The situation is definitely within our control.  So we have two choices:

We can let give in to the lies of the evil one who want to see the work of Jesus Christ crumble because he HATES Jesus.  He hates His Name.  And he hates those of us who are a part of Him.


We can turn around and slap Satan in the face and tell him, “No way!”

No way are you going to destroy what Jesus has patiently worked so hard to do in our life.

No way are you going to destroy what the Holy Spirit has been doing in our heart.

No way are you going to destroy what the Father has been doing in His work in His Church for His Kingdom.

So the choice is up to us.  We can wallow in self pity and doubt and discouragement and let Satan feel he has the victory….


We can immerse ourselves in the Word of God, fall on our face before Him, cry out to our Father, pick ourselves up and give God the victory He deserves!

So let’s go already!